Thanks for your answers! I now know lot more about the situation regarding VDPAU, NVDEC etc. which might come in handy in the future.
For the meantime though I solved the issue via a workaround without causing any real drawback in my opinion.
I knew softhddevice had command line arguments but not that one of them lets you disable the hardware decoder. I stumbled across that feature by accident and added the argument "-w no-hw-decoder" to try it out. That not only instantly solved the issue this topic is about but along the way improved FFWD, FRWD, slow motion and pause behaviour during 1080i playback. So it looks like the crash is caused by the Nvidia hardware decoding.
I expected that disabling the hardware decoder would also mean loosing the advanced Nvidia scaling & deinterlacing but luckily it did not apparently. CPU load of my AMD A8-7600 went from 5 - 8% to 11-15% which is fine for me. I did not yet measure how it affected power usage of the whole system but I guess GPU load might have gone down in exchange to the CPU increase. I wish I discovered this years ago since the whole thing feels much better than it did during my time with easyVDR 3.5 (no offense to easyVDR, it was just that with the included combination of software components the Nvidia GT220/VDPAU/softhddevice always had issues which were absent before with Gen2VDR 4 IIRC). But then I was still using an Athlon XII CPU so maybe with that CPU letting the GPU do the decoding was still needed, I don't know.
So unless I overlooked something major I can only recommend this workaround.